Have you taken an enneagram test yet? Some of you may not even know what an enneagram test, and honestly, I didn't either up until a few months ago. You can take a basic test here: https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEPS/
I am by no means an expert on the topic, but rather an enthusiast. And by being an enthusiast... I mean, this $h*t changed my life!
So what the heck is it? An enneagram test is a way of categorizing individuals into 9 different groups based on personality types. It's super useful for understanding who you are, as well as understanding others behind you! It dives into the inner workings and motivations for why we behave the way that we do. It has truly changed the way I looked at myself and the world around me.
Before going into the test, I had a general idea of what I would be told or what personality type I would be categorized into. I had taken other personality tests throughout high school and college, and I was always categorized as an "INFJ: Loyalist." So, when I got my results from the enneagram, I wasn't entirely surprised--- that was until I read the details. I was blown away by how accurate the results were. It was truly "me". It is said that the enneagram is how you see the world, whereas Meyers Briggs is how the world sees you.
After finding out my type, I immediately texted my best friends and made them take the test; I even made my boyfriend take it during one of our long car rides. I felt like everyone needed to experience the epiphany I just had.
I kept reading up on my type, finding Instagram + other social media pages about it, Pinterest posts, etc. As I read up on the different enneagrams, I thought about all of the people in my life, what type they most likely were, and how that impacts their perspective of the world at all. It has changed the way I see others and the way I treat others. I have started approaching relationships and interactions with more thought.
I became more considerate of others.
I gained empathy.
I grew patience within my relationships.
I developed self-awareness.
It changed my life, and it can change yours too. I truly encourage you to take an enneagram test at some point, whether it's today, tomorrow, or 5 years from now. It will genuinely help you to understand yourself and be able to put yourself in someone else's shoes. You will be able to gain a new perspective and understand the world from other views.
A brief overview of Type 6: The Loyalist.
Basic Fear: Being without support or guidance
Basic Desire: Having security and support
Sixes are named the loyalist because they are truly the most loyal to their friends and to their beliefs, they're loyal to ideas and systems as well. This may seem like a great trait to have. I mean, who doesn't want to be seen as a loyal friend or someone who isn't afraid to fight for themselves and their own beliefs? Welllll... the reason sixes are so loyal is because their basic fear is being abandoned and left without support. This fear leads to a lack of self-confidence and a belief that one doesn't have the own ability to take on life's challenges alone.
Sixes are also known for being thinkers. They have a hard time finding their own inner guidance, thus not having confidence in their own minds and judgments (This is SO relatable-- I always ask for advice on every little thing + I use an app to help me make decisions....WHAT!) We want guidance in our decisions, but we don't want decisions being made for us. We hate being controlled.
Sixes think a lot. Sixes worry a lot. Oddly enough, we are fully aware of our anxieties. Were filled with "nameless" anxieties and try to find or create a reason why--- we like to think that there is an explanation or causation for our worries, even through there typically isn't. Sixes are said to have a higher level of anxiety than any other enneagram number. We thrive to build a network of trust to mask the background of unsteadiness and fear, but this can be hard for us. "Belief" (including concepts such as trust and faith) is difficult for us to achieve.
Creating this safe environment is nearly impossible for us if we cannot first resolve our own emotional insecurities. This means learning to face our anxieties. Until we hit this point, we are sometimes referred to as a "ping-pong ball", constantly shifting back and forth between what's influencing us the hardest at any given moment. We are a bundle of opposites due to this reactivity. Strong but weak. Fearful, but also courageous. Trusting and distrusting at the same time. Both defensive and offensive. The list goes on.
In relationships, sixes present themselves on the outside by being loyal and striving to commit to their role in life. They truly desire to feel safe and secure. On the inside, sixes overthink and always plan for the worst (I think my biggest question I always ask myself is "What if?".) The biggest limitation within relationships is that sixes take being loyal too far. This makes it difficult to leave unhealthy relationships, toxic friendships, or poor situations. They also struggle to trust. Direct communication and constant reassurance are key for them. (Knowing what type others are can truly help you know what they need from you and how you can support them!)
Sixes at their best are loyal, likable, caring, warm, compassionate, witty, practical, helpful and responsible. At their worst they can be hypervigilant, controlling, unpredictable, judgemental, paranoid, defensive, rigid, self-defeating and testy. Truly... a bundle of opposites.
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Each of the nine types has certain behaviors to satisfy their own needs/desires, a "drive" of some sort. They also have their own passion and virtues. We have a way of interpreting and a way of processing (i.e. a type six interprets with thinking/doing and processes with feeling.) They all have their own defense mechanisms, instincts, what they need from others, and so much more! Pinterest can help you understand every type! It hoards an array of advice, self-care tips, ways you can help other types, general information, and so much more! If you don't have Pinterest--- just use Google!
With that in mind, I encourage you to take an enneagram to first understand yourself; it is truly a powerful journey. I then challenge you to take it to the next level and use it as a tool to understand those around you. It's time to start living what you love. So, what do you say? Let's do this dang thing!